14 June 2008
And this is why I take public transit everywhere
On the way home from Surrey tonight (DON’T EVEN SAY A WORD), a girl sitting across from me on the Skytrain started a conversation with me. It began with a comment about a fighting couple that had just gotten off and ended with the story of how she had just broken up with her boyfriend of twelve years.
They have two kids together. She always paid for things like groceries and utilities. He always paid for things like the TV and the barbecue. Guess who got what.
Breakups are always so messy. The Dividing Of The Stuff makes it all that much harder.
But damn, 12 years? And two kids?
It kind of made me realize, shit, the things we go through for happiness.
Oh. Man. That’s a really really crap situation…so crap that I don’t even have words for it. :S
How did she seem to you? Angry, sad, resigned?
June 15th, 2008 at 4:09 amhah thank goodness they werent married
June 15th, 2008 at 5:54 amThat’s terrible.
June 15th, 2008 at 9:01 am12 YEARS?!
If relationships take work, you’re in the wrong relationship. And because there were things attached to that relationship, well… The Dividing is going to be tough. But in the end, if you’re fighting a way through any relationship, if you learn that if it takes work to make it work, and know that it shouldn’t be like that, then fine.
June 15th, 2008 at 12:20 pmWow, 12 years?!
June 15th, 2008 at 2:49 pmO.O That sucks for her.
Things like that depress me :(
I wish her all the best!
Doesn’t it amaze you the people you can meet just randomly? It makes me want to run out and introduce myself to EVERYONE possible.
June 15th, 2008 at 3:17 pmOh man that’s such a sad story to hear especially when there are kids involved. I learned the *dividing of things* rule from the movie When Harry Met Sally (one of my all-time favorites). It’s when Harry says,
June 16th, 2008 at 2:21 amBlah, I think about this all the time. Like, “What’s the point in being in a relationship when I know there’s a VERY GOOD CHANCE it’ll end up in an extremely messy breakup that’ll leave me crushed for months?”
…But you go and do it anyway, in hopes that it won’t happen. :S
June 16th, 2008 at 10:34 amYes, taking public transport for most of the time can lead to very interesting conversations, instant rapport, and a closer look at another’s life on the micro scale.
One of the things my bf and I have agreed on if a break-up is ever imminent, with all the yours-and-mine things lying around: we buy each other out. Perhaps not everything, but for important items like the fridge and bed. ;)
June 16th, 2008 at 4:50 pmWoah, woah, woah… wait a second here.
WHAT THE HELL WERE YOU DOING IN SURREY?!?!
Reply: I KNOW, I KNOW! I was out there visiting an out-of-town best friend who was staying at her other friend’s house, which happened to be
June 16th, 2008 at 8:28 pmSlurrySurrey. It was 11pm when I got to Gateway station to head back into Vancouver, but luckily, I arrived home un-raped and un-stabbed. :Pi almost died when my 7 year relationship ended. those two-digit relationships are hard to fathom when you’re in your early twenties or younger.
Reply: I know, right? I can’t imagine how I would deal with that… But I guess what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.
June 16th, 2008 at 9:51 pmAh. The things you learn about others in public places!
12 Years? Two Kids? That’s a horrible thing to happen after such a great milestone. Guess things can never last forever. =/
June 17th, 2008 at 5:46 pm12 years, 2 kids, and they weren’t MARRIED?
June 18th, 2008 at 4:32 pmFor some reason, it always makes me sad when I hear about people who have been together for a long time break up. :( I’ve always been one for sappy, happy endings.
June 19th, 2008 at 9:43 pmJesus, 12 years? That’s pretty scary. Strange how these conversations come up though, always interesting to chat to people. Except this weird man at the bus stop today…he was very awkward.
June 21st, 2008 at 1:18 pmPublic transport is so profound.
Reply: It really is, actually!
June 22nd, 2008 at 10:07 pmTonight? Surrey? WTH LADY. I avoid taking the public transpo to places that far at night. Hmmm, I get scared when random people talk to me though. But wow, 12 years relationship? That’s… wow.
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